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What Is 'Not Doing'?

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Hi Will thanks for the reply and I can see that I was fixing my intensity with intensity as you say. However, the journey for me to 'not' head-talk is perilous and I really can't get to grips yet with achieving this state. Why do we do it? Thanks anyway for all your kind words of encouragement, I think this is going to take me time but I do know that this is the key if we are to achieve recovery and focus in flow. Iona SK

 25/9/18   Just wanna say thanks for even being available to chat like this..
So Im now thinking that If I'm driving in my car making up a future conversation with you/my partner/my boss.... When I notice this, don't beat myself up for it, and don't be tempted to go back in and ask why/analyse..
My instant reaction at the minute is, bloody hell your head talking again... So maybe it's that which needs to change for starters

Helping that recovery along so itís clear is not something that will necessarily click straight away so remember...THE STRATEGY IS BEST KEPT SIMPLE - WE JUST HAVE TO KNOW NOT TO STOP OUR THINKING WHEN TEMPTED - IF WE DO IT WILL BE FORCED.

Of course, we should realise that it's actually easier NOT to stop our thinking therefore. What has unfortunatley 'been put before us' is a very strong temptation to 'do' that stopping as we don't like pain, like control/perfection/black and white etc etc etc. which leaves us prone to that 'stopping' temptation.

 As such my recovery after many years of suffering, I did actually encounter a lot of 'relief moments'...where I suddenly felt better as I simply didn't have the energy to fight any more..but because I still didn't really understand what was happening, I was soon back in that mess of vicious analysis and forced controlling.

 Those relief moments I now know were me abstaining from that temptation to find a solution and not fighting my mind/doing anything and hence staying with natural flow and letting my mind move on and 'through' my bad thoughts. It was almost like me having my hand open and then been tempted through stress to forcefully clench that fist and to go back into that stress (or bean bag!).

 I truly have experienced the depths of despair for such a long time, it has left me separate from life - detached from conversations and not really part of the world, because I was so busy trying to control that intense discomforting feeling which then just snowballed until I didn't know whether I was coming or going - leaping from solution to solution where that itself became a constant repetitive and forced 'thinking' strategy.

Yes, as characters, we may live on that fine line between sanity and destruction, but you can live on the right side of that line as there is so much so much positive with being you. We can stay on the positive side as long as we donít take the secondary option to latch onto, or grab any discomforting experience and we must, as such, 'leave it' in flow. So many external comments that I am so much in better shape these days gives me the proof that we 'can' finally turn the corner and whilst I 'fully' know the horrors of being locked in - it has also given me the strength to get through those bad moments without making them into extended moments of destruction.

If you would like to take this further, The Mind Works is available on the 'Get Book' page (188 pages in length), Paperback £11.49, TMW Ebook £8.99 (Ebook can also be purchased on Amazon in Kindle format). There are more set situations/tests and Advice Columns along with more sufferers' success stories as they start to get to grips with this affliction. There is also a free 30 min SKYPE session also where you can follow up any doubts etc with a one:one conversation by phone/Skype.

Articles deal with depression and anxiety and how this starts to disappear as our negative and tense energy output drops - with 'less trying' to force extended retrospective control spurred on by that spike, that protective cut-off which stands out when we are stressed.