Introduction Understand the EXACT process of Anxiety Panic Awarded 5 stars by UK Mental Health Foundation fear panic obsessive worry stress solution-doyoupanic.co.uk
The reality over time is that I have developed my understanding with this condition or should I say 'a reactive condition to very normal circumstances'. Those normal circumstances. of course, surround a sensitive, intense mindset where we can feel anxious or stressed for long periods, even days, if we are in a stressful, or worrying situation.
However, what’s really important is that we don’t react to any of that momentary existence which is then hard to understand the abstention concept.
I also developed a very strong relationship in terms of understanding anxiety with Paul David when he first set out his website and he has gone on to help lots of people through his book and website www.anxietynomore .co.uk. However, both of us are acutely aware of the realities of recovery and no matter what advice we can give, sufferers can be so bewildered and uncertain as to how they should deal with the problem that they often go away and fall straight back into the trap of trying to 'do' something about their condition.
This is NOT abstention
ie.. this could be looking on the internet, finding certain techniques like self-talk... saying ''relax'' as the 'answer' to feeling stressed, as you might know.. self-talk is exactly the opposite of what I advise.
So the reality is that we have to gain an understanding of the separate processes that take place that can make 'OK' stress such a destructive condition.
Ok, if we were to imagine a big beanbag ...that you can sit on and in that beanbag are our momentary thoughts negative/positive ...and then we have an intense negative thought about something at work, or something we’ve done, or a mistake we make/a relationship doubts/or other worries ...when we cut-off or come out of those thoughts... we are then 'outside' of that bean bag of momentary thoughts.
Those previous thoughts are now separate and detached from us and in the past.
At this cut-off point, we 'recognise, or become aware' of that stress and so feel in discomfort... we also feel at this awareness point 'tempted' to react or 'do' something about it...
...it is at this point of stress recognition that we can then 'force' oursleves to stop our thinking...to analyse our situation or 'not' force to stop.
Not doing this over-reaction is abstaining. from interfering with life's natural flowing processes.
This is 'not doing' and is the recovery strategy that we need to develop to stay in natural flow without forceful interruption, regardless of how strong the temptation is to force control of life.
If you look at my Method of Recovery Diagram, you will see I call this 'dive back in' as the panic 'scramble' (Mord pt.3), therefore when we are outside of that bean bag we simply have to avoid or 'ABSTAIN' from going into that forced 'stopping'
- this is simply not doing ANYTHING when tempted to do SOMETHING caused by our discomfort from stress.
If we don't force into answer-searching - we allow ourselves to stay in flow and WILL get through those periods, no matter how stressful.
Letting go is about allowing life to happen good, bad and downright ugly and we have to keep flowing through all of that, yet when we get positive thoughts in that momentary flow we again don't have to force to hold into these, as they then become unnecessary coping behaviours - ref Anorexia example - see the 'Trials of Life'in book.